The Hatchling and I are going on vacation for a week, to a locale with no hot water and no internet access. It will be the Hatchling’s first plane trip. Did I mention she’s teething? Yah. So … pray for me.
We’ll be back next weekend.
The Hatchling and I are going on vacation for a week, to a locale with no hot water and no internet access. It will be the Hatchling’s first plane trip. Did I mention she’s teething? Yah. So … pray for me.
We’ll be back next weekend.
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We made it! You’re through the “fourth trimester” and by all accounts things should start getting a little easier from here on out. This month was already easier than last month, so let’s keep that upward trend!
One of your favorite things to do lately is kick and push with your little legs. Most of the time you can roll yourself over onto your tummy, and then you strain and strain to get back on your back until I give you some help. You’ve also become a wizard at wriggling out of your swaddling – Daddy calls you his little Houdini. Unfortunately, your magic powers don’t yet extend to sleeping much longer than two hours a pop at night and 30-40 minutes during the day. See if you can work on that, ok? You wouldn’t even believe what an awesome Mama I could be with a few more hours sleep.
Your biggest milestone this month as far as I’m concerned is that you laughed. You only did it once, but now that we know you can your Daddy and I have been trying every trick in the book to make you do it again. We’re basically complete whores for baby laughter – it’s like crack to us. (Note to self: do not let the Hatchling read these posts until she’s old enough to think crack jokes are funny.) Even when you’re just smiling, the smiles have gotten bigger and more joyful than they were last month. I’m sure it won’t be long until you figure out that your smiles and laughter will pretty much make us forgive you for anything. Lord help us then!
One way we can tell you’re getting older is that you can stay up longer than an hour at a time now without getting cranky. You’re also just beginning to take an interest in some of the baby toys we have. You still aren’t so good at grabbing or holding on to anything – you still haven’t quite figured out that your hands belong to you – but anything with lights or music is instantly fascinating. I’m hoping this explains the uncanny attraction you have to the TV right now. You loooooove watching the TV, nestled in my or your daddy’s arms.
Some of this may be genetic, as both of your parents are professional-level couch potatoes. As soon as you get to the point where you can start actually understanding what you’re seeing I’m planning on cutting us off, cold turkey, since I really don’t want you watching TV until you’re at least 2. (We’ll see how long that plan lasts.) But for now it’s the best light and sound show we’ve got, and sometimes it’s the only thing that will quiet you down. Add it to what I’m sure will be a lengthy list of bad parenting maneuvers on my part. Your therapist will be fascinated.
In a few days, you and I will be flying out to stay for a week at our family lake cottage in Canada. Daddy has to stay home, but Aunt Squony will be coming along to help me take care of you. I’m a little nervous about taking you on a plane – I don’t want to be one of those parents with a screaming baby who pisses off all the other passengers – but I must say that in general you charm everyone you meet, even when you’re fussy. I can’t go anywhere in public with you without someone stopping me to say what a beautiful baby you are. Sure, sometimes they think you’re a boy baby, but we put that down to people’s outdated notions about wearing the color blue. They’re right, too – you ARE a beautiful baby, inside and out. I’m so glad that I didn’t have to go back to work just when you’re getting interesting. We may have to survive on peanut butter and mac and cheese for a few years, but I wouldn’t give up this time with you for anything.
Love,
Mamala
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We’re rounding the corner of the first three months, and in the interests of posterity (and to remind me when I have the next one), here are the beyond-the-basics things without which I would not have survived the “fourth trimester”:
The Happiest Baby on the Block (book and DVD)
A swaddling blanket or two
A good rocking chair
A sling
A CD of white noise
As Time Goes By (to watch while breastfeeding)
A good breast pump
An abiding sense of humor
Zoloft
Lovely friends and family to help out
I’m sure every parent has some variation on this list. What’s on yours?
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The Hatchling laughed for the very first time yesterday evening. She was nursing and when she got done something must have tickled her funny bone and she started to chuckle. That made me laugh, which made her laugh even harder. It was the Best. Sound. Ever.
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Can somebody explain to me how it is that my cat knows EXACTLY the moment when I’ve just gotten the Hatchling to nod off, and invariably chooses that moment to come into the nursery and meow his loudest?
Because I would really like to know.
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Yesterday, my friend P. and I were taking our babies on a walk around the lake, like we do almost every Wednesday. As we rounded a curve in the walk, we saw a phalanx of four other mommies pushing their strollers coming towards us.
P: Hey, ladies, wanna rumble?
(Two of them look confused, two give us sort of nervous laughs.)
Me (snorting with laughter): Dude, those women think we’re nuts!
P: I know. But I figure we’ll never see them again. (Pause.) We totally could have taken them, though.
Me: Oh, yeah. Totally.
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THIS is what I have to look forward to? I’m not sure I’m ready …
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So I get these weekly bulletins from BabyCenter.com with information about my baby’s development, links to articles, and of course ads for baby products. In this week’s bulletin (for 2 months and 4 weeks), it noted: “some babies may be awake as much as 10 hours a day!”
HA HAHAHAHAHA! Stop, you’re killing me. No, really, I mean it! 10 hours. Hell, we’re lucky if we can get the Hatchling to sleep for 10 hours a day. I’ve been tracking her sleep patterns for the last week, just to try and get a better sense of her habits, if any. Kids her age are supposed to sleep for about 15 hours in any given 24 hour period, most of which should occur at night. The Hatchling does get most of her sleep at night; the problem is it’s only about 7-8 hours a night. And then her napping is typically 45 minutes here, 1/2 hour there. It’s just plain not enough, and I honestly don’t know what to do at this point to help her sleep more. She’s too young for sleep training (which, thank god, we can start in another month), and we’ve done all the stuff about always having her sleep in her crib, darkening the room, adding white noise, have a regular routine before sleeping, etc., etc. None of it seems to get her to sleep enough. Result: overtired and cranky. The baby, too. Any suggestions for making it through the next month?
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If you’re a devotee of The Swaddle, as we are in the squab household, then you know what a pain in the rear it can be trying to wrassle a wriggling baby into a nice, tight swaddle so she can’t flail about. Mr. Squab and I have gotten pretty good at it, but as the Hatchling gets bigger, she gets better at squirming out of her blankets and waking herself up. So today I was at Babies-R-Us getting some breast pads and other mothering necessities, and I found the SwaddleMe. It’s made by a company called Kiddopotamus, which alone is just about cute enough to make me buy the product, but even cooler is how much freaking easier it is to use this than a regular ole blanket for swaddling. It’s got a little pouch for the feet, and adjustable velcro closures so you can get the swaddle good and tight and no wriggling will loosen it. It’s also a lot faster than swaddling with a blanket, so the swaddling battle is somewhat abbreviated. And at only $10, a part of which goes to the SIDS Alliance, I’m a big fan. We got the Hatchling one in green, and she looks just like a pea in a pod when she’s all wrapped up.
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My religious background is somewhat varied: my family tended to congregation-hop, and as a kid I remember attending a wide variety of churches, from Lutheran to Presbyterian to Episcopalian to Catholic. (Yah, I know that’s not really much variety in the broad scheme of things, but when most of the people you know are lifers in one denomination, it counts.) Going to church, though varied, was constant – we were pretty much always a member of some congregation. I liked the Catholic and Episcopalian ones best. Although now I consider myself to be a militant agnostic (“I don’t know and you don’t either”), religion was quite important to me at certain moments in my childhood. I liked the ritual of it, the rhythms of the liturgical calendar, the sense of community. And to be honest, though I’m very very vague on the details, at bottom I think I still do believe in something like God. I’d guess Mr. Squab is in about the same position, though it’s not something we’ve ever talked about much. We don’t attend church, mostly due to inertia on my part and total lack of interest on Mr. Squab’s part. When we found out I was pregant, I did think about joining a congregation. I’m pretty ambivalent about many aspects of organized religion, but I also think it’s hard to make a choice about something you have no familiarity with, so I feel like I need to expose the Hatchling to religion in some form. Additionally, given the extent to which Judeo-Christian ideologies underpin our whole culture, it seems like a good idea to give my kids a working knowledge of the framework, you know?
Anyway, this is all by way of saying that we haven’t baptized the Hatchling. And I feel a little weird about it. On the one hand, it feels dishonest to baptize her when neither of her parents has darkened a church door in living memory. On the other hand, I was baptized, and Mr. Squab was baptized, and … well … it just feels like something you ought to do. I don’t buy into any silly notions of limbo or anything – it’s not like I’m afraid she’s going to go to hell. But there is something nice about being formally welcomed into a community, which is what baptism really is in the end, right? Only we don’t so much belong to one of those communities. And I’m pretty sure that Mr. Squab isn’t interested in giving up his Sunday mornings, so if I do decide to start going to church again, it will just be me and the Hatchling. Which makes it that much harder to get up the gumption to get out the door … yeah. Did I mention I was ambivalent? Anyway, what do you all think? Is baptism important? What’s the best way for an overeducated feminist agnostic to expose her daughter to religion? How do you talk to your kids about this stuff?
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