Category Archives: random tidbits

You can’t make this shit up

So I’ve mentioned in the past how we live in a somewhat … borderline … neighborhood, right? Everyone on our block (that we’ve met) is really nice, but we’re not far from those meighborhoods that consistently figure in evening news reports for burglary, gunshot wounds, etc. In our optimistic moods, we think of our ‘hood as “up and coming.” And in truth, with the exception of the shooting right outside our house a year and a half ago and the flophouse/dope-den on the next block (that got shut down about a year ago), most of the stuff we deal with is pretty minor. People doing drug deals in cars outside our house; kids egging my stepdad’s BMW; Loud parties spilling into the street. We call the cops; they don’t come until too late; we go to bed. But tonight we had a new experience: drive-by plating. You heard me. We were in the living room multi-tasking (i.e. surfing the web while watching TV) when we heard – and felt – a loud crash like glass breaking. There’s been a spate of burglaries in this area recently, so my first thought was “christ, someone just broke one of our basement windows,” and my second thought was “fuck, I bet someone just broke into my car.” But no; Mr. Squab went outside and all he could find was some broken ceramic pieces on the side of the house. Our backyard neighbor was out looking around, too, and there were similar shards all down his sidewalk. “This isn’t the weirdest thing I’ve seen in this neighborhood,” he said (he’s lived here 10 years). “It’s a new one on us,” replied Mr. Squab. So we came back in, called the cops, and chalked up another weird moment to urban living.

Drive-by plating. WTF?

Close Encounters

It was about 11:30 at night. I’d just gotten done babysitting for some close friends so they could finally have a real date away from their 16-month-old daughter. The night had gone well – the baby was in a fun mood and went to bed with nary a peep – but I was still feeling kind of wired as I got into my car. I was also a little peckish, as I’d had an early dinner. I’ll just hit the 24-hour McDonald’s in Uptown, I thought. Get a cheeseburger and a shake and eat it on the way home, give myself some time to wind down. OK, yes, it’s a little gross to eat fast food at that hour unless you’re a college student pulling an all-nighter, but it sounded good. And in fact it was even better than I’d expected. Something about the distinctive blend of cheap beef, white bread, plastic cheese and warm pickle took me back to other late nights: coming off a bender at a grad-school conference; satisfying a “Big Mac attack” during exam week; making a last-minute run to the hometown Mickey D’s and getting back after curfew. This being the weekend before Halloween, Uptown was hopping with costumed people in various stages of inebriation. Safe in the confines of my car, I enjoyed the parade of firemen, cowgirls, be-boppers, mermaids, and even a pair of women dressed as large breasts. The night took on an almost dreamlike quality, with the streetlights casting their surreal glow on a motley assemblage of fantastical creatures. I decided to take Lake Street over to the east side of town, where I live. It takes longer than my usual route, but I was in the mood to stay in the city lights and soak up the late-night goings on.

I can’t remember exactly which intersection I was at when it happened. I think I had crossed over to the east side, but maybe not. What I do remember is this: I had stopped at a red light, and I was the third (and last) car in the right lane. There was a white compact car in front of me with two people, a man and a woman, in the front seat. On the sidewalk to our right a man was walking. He wasn’t that distinctive looking: average height, heavyset, dark hair and a beard, wearing what looked like hospital scrubs with a light stain down the front. He moved towards the car in front of me as if to get in the back seat. Odd spot for a pick-up, I thought, but whatever. And then I thought, Maybe it’s a drug deal. He lifted up the handle of the rear passenger door and it was locked. He stepped back from the car as if to give the driver time to unlock the doors; only then did I notice that the people in the car were looking back at the man as if he were crazy, gesturing at him to move away, back off. The man stepped forward again to try the front door, this time, and the car pulled forward and over to the left in an attempt to shake him off. Giving up, the man turned in my direction and started heading towards my passenger side.

I’m not sure at what point I locked my car doors – it was sometime before the man turned towards me but after I realized that he was not just getting a ride with the car in front of me. I don’t usually ride with all the doors locked, so it took me a few seconds to find the master switch in the darkened car. I locked it, and watched the man approach. I remember thinking, I hope the doors really are locked, I hope I clicked the switch in the right direction. But I didn’t feel as though I had the time or ability to check to make sure. I also remember that the man’s face had almost no expression as he walked towards me. He didn’t look angry, or crazy, or sad or desperate. Hopeless, maybe. A little wary. I thought, maybe he’ll just pass my car by, but I knew that he really wouldn’t. He walked right up to my passenger door and jiggled the handle, looking me in the eyes as he did so, still expressionless, saying nothing. When he could tell that the car was locked, he gave up and continued down the street, headed who knows where.

The whole encounter took less time than it takes traffic lights to change. Ten seconds? Fifteen? Not even enough time for me to be properly scared of the possibilities, though looking back I can see that it was scary. I wonder what would have happened if the doors hadn’t been locked. What did the man want? Would he have asked for money? Or for a ride somewhere? Tried to steal the car? Used violence? The light turned green and I drove towards home, sucking down my shake and thinking about what had just happened. Most of the time, due to the accident of an upper-middle-class birth, I am able to travel through the world on a cushion of socioeconomic privilege, rarely brushing up against the harsher realities of urban life. I extol the virtues of living in the city: coffee shops within walking distance, art-house movies, family-owned businesses, people of different ethnicities and lifestyles living together in peace. Cue the John Lennon soundtrack, please. I don’t know what that man wanted, and I’m just as glad I wasn’t forced to find out. I suspect I’ll be more inclined from now on to lock my car doors on late-night travels through the city, and I’m not sure how I feel about that. But the man’s face will stay with me for a while. Maybe it’s not such a bad thing now and again to have a close encounter with how the other half lives.

Um, What? It’s Tuesday already?

Whew, this week is going fast. Not that we’ve been doing anything particularly exciting, mind you. But Mr. Squab is home this week, burning up some of his crazy backlog of vacation days, and that does make the time fly by a little faster. I don’t seem to have anything blogworthy to share, but here’s some other random shit I’ve come across in the past few days:

Beckett for Babies – this is GENIUS. I would so buy this boardbook. As the author says, “If it is never too early to read to your baby, it is never too early to prepare her for graduate school.”

Did you know Sesame Street is now doing free video podcasts? They’re each about 5 minutes long, the perfect length for distracting your toddler from whatever havoc she’s currently wreaking over there in the corner. No, the other corner. Behind you. With the cat.

Halloween is coming! We’re not crazy into it in this household, but we’ll take any excuse to dress the kid up in a cute costume. The Hatchling will be going as a ladybug this year. Kind of like this costume, only cuter and cheaper. Don’t worry, there will be pictures. Way too many pictures.

This just in: Home Depot = condescending sexist motherfuckers. See the Bitch for the details.

Happiness Is …

Finishing up what you thought was the final novel in your new favorite series, only to receive the next book, which you forgot you ordered a few weeks ago, in the mail, that very same day.

Sometimes early onset senility results in nice surprises.

Parenthood

The Hatchling has some kind of bug that involves a fever and crankiness, interspersed with general lassitude.

In a related event, I have the damn theme song to “Elmo’s World” permanently lodged in my brain.

Overall, not one of my better days as a parent.

Weekend Report

What happened this weekend:

1. The Hatchling got a vicious cold. Much mucous ensued.

2. Mr. Squab got the Hatchling’s vicious cold. Even more mucous, and much sneezing.

3. Said colds notwithstanding, we hosted a dinner party. I swear to god, until I graduated from college, my vision of adult life consisted largely of throwing dinner parties. I dunno if my parents threw an unusual number of them when I was little, but they definitely loom large in my memory – falling asleep to the pleasant sound of adults socializing outside my bedroom door, or crashing on the guest bed of one of my parents’ friends, and being sleepily carried to the car when it was time to go home. My generation doesn’t tend to throw dinner parties so much. We’re more of a backyard barbecue, happy hour, game night or movie night kind of crowd – more casual, bigger groups. But sometimes it’s nice to socialize with just a few couples at a time, I tell you what. The meal could have been better (yet another skill that suffers from toddlerus interruptus), but the wine was yummy, the dessert was sinful, and the conversation was just dandy.

4. I got the Hatchling these shoes on summer clearance. Aren’t they just the CUTEST?

Baby Crocs

Random Tidbits, new school year edition

* Maybe I just needed the weather to change. It’s been in the 60s the past couple of days, real autumn weather, and I’ve been feeling a little more of my accustomed seasonal appreciation. The Hatchling and I had a good day today, getting out the warmer clothes and putting away some of the lightest summer tank tops and shorts, running errands and then stopping by the park to play for a little bit.

* The Hatchling went down the slide ALL BY HERSELF for the first time today. I put her at the top, sitting down, and then went and crouched at the bottom and held out my hands. She grinned a little nervously, but she knew what to do and used the sides of the slide to s-l-o-w-l-y pull herself down until – whee! – she was sliding into my arms. She was both scared and excited, but the excited part won out enough for three more trips down the slide.

* Tomorrow we start our first ECFE class. We’ll go once a week through December. It will be really good for both of us to have a scheduled activity to get us out of the house, especially once it gets cold and gross outside, and I know the Hatchling will love to meet the other kids. This, of course, doesn’t mean that I’m not kind of nervous about tomorrow. Will the other moms be nice? Will I fit in? Will the other kids be nice to my kid? Will there ever come a time when I can breeze effortlessly into new social situations without anxiety? The answer to that last one, I fear, is no: but I can ACT like it’s effortless, anyway, and sometimes that helps.

* Looky, Daddy, a long-time resident of the blogroll (look under “Parental Units”) just sent his twin daughters off to preschool for the first time today. He posted a video reflecting on the experience which is really not to be missed.

* Did you know that in China, kids who aren’t potty-trained yet mostly just wear crotchless pants and do their business wherever they are? This post gives an overview, including some mighty cute pictures of baby butts.

Not dead; merely resting

Sorry for the lack of postage this week. Just haven’t had the gumption to put anything in blogular form. Instead, how ’bout some bullets?

– Took the Hatchling for her very first visit to Urgent Care on Labor Day. Considering she’s almost 17 months old, I’d say that’s not too bad. The cause: we suspected that she dislocated her elbow while Mr. Squab was swinging her a bit too enthusiastically by the arms. In the course of diagnosing the problem over the phone with the doctor, they told us to extend her arm and turn her palm upright to see if that hurt. It did, all right, but it apparently ALSO fixed the problem, because by the time we had her signed in at the Urgent Care clinic she was running around the waiting room entertaining all the kids who were actually ailing by smiling, saying “HI!” in her usual enthusiastic manner, twisting, going down on all fours, balancing on her head and lifting one leg in the air, etc. Of course, we still had the doctor take a look at her, but she was totally fine, the little bugger.

– The insomnia seems to be getting better, slowly. I’ve gone to sleep no later than 1 am for the last three nights in a row, which is a damn sight better than the 3:30, 4:30, and 5:30 am times I was doing last week. Thank you, Atavan and Tylenol PM.

– It’s supposed to be in the 60s and 70s this weekend. WOOOT!

– I can’t believe I only got 80% on this. On the other hand, can you beat me?
80%The Movie Quiz

FilmCritic.com – Movie Reviews

Random Tidbits + Friday Videos

1. The Hatchling loves her crib so much it’s not even funny. During the day, when she wakes up from her naps, her favorite thing to do is stay in her crib after I’ve turned on the lights and writhe around with her blanket and a few board books while I watch her and talk to her from the rocking chair. I can’t really argue with her. It’s a soft, cushy, safe space; she can bounce and wriggle and flop to her heart’s content all with a captive (doting) audience. Who WOULDN’T like that?

2. IKEA is teh awesome. I know this isn’t exactly breaking news, but I just thought I’d reiterate. The Hatchling’s hand-me-down highchair gasped its final gasp this week, so we made an IKEA run for a cheapo replacement. We parked in the family-friendly parking space (close to the doors!), ate at the family-friendly cafeteria (cheap kids meals! free bibs! a kids’ play area!), and then went to pick up our $25-yet-still-kind-of-cool-looking high chair. Then we came home and the Hatchling “helped” me put the chair together by carrying the legs to different secret locations all over the first floor of the house. Good times.

3. For much of the summer, the Hatchling has been sleeping until 8:30-9 in the morning, a welcome change from her previous 7:00 am waking time. But this morning she really outdid herself. We put her to bed early last night, around 7:00 pm, and I woke from a bad dream at 10:23 this morning and she was STILL ASLEEP. TEN TWENTY-THREE! And she would’ve slept longer, but I was freaked out that she was dead and so I went in and woke her up. She seemed fine; her usual cheerful, busy self. But Jesus – that’s 15 1/2 hours of solid sleep! Plus, I just put her down for a nap! I can’t decide if I should worry that she’s got some bizarre form of narcolepsy or just shut my yap and thank my lucky stars for having such a good sleeper. Thoughts?

4. Here’s the video recommendation of the week. Blow, baby, blow!

The Little Things

Today I had the luxury of dropping off the Hatchling at a friend’s house for the afternoon. (Doubly appreciated because Mr. Squab has been out of town since the ass-crack of dawn Monday morning, so the Hatchling and I needed a little time apart, you know?) This meant that I could:

– Go to Target and pick up prescriptions that had been waiting there a week;

– Take the time to actually choose some hair color, rather than quickly snatching up the first one that looks like it might be OK;

– Exchange some shoes and pants that were too small for the Hatchling;

– Treat myself to a sandwich and coffee at a cafe, and eat the whole thing SLOWLY and WITHOUT SHARING;

– Pick up the house in preparation for Mr. Squab’s return.

Please note, I was able to do this all in the space of a few hours. Had there been no childcare involved, each of the first three items would have taken a separate trip (or, if combined, been the hellish trip from hell with the hellchild); the fourth item would have been impossible; and the fifth item would have been done imperfectly and hastily during one of the Hatchling’s naps.

So, to recap: I’ve apparently reached a point in my life where merely having a few hours to myself ranks right up there with sex, wine, and chocolate as one of the greatest things ever. I might think that was sad if I weren’t so stoked to have gotten all those things done.