Monthly Archives: March 2007

11 (and a half) months old

Dearest Hatchling,
Last Sunday you turned eleven months old. I didn’t get a chance to write your letter on time because of being in the middle of tech week for a show I’m directing, a phrase I’m sure will resonate through your formative years and result in a deep and abiding resentment of all things theatrical. That’ll learn me.

Actually, I don’t know who I’m kidding: I had to take you with me to the theatre last week and you just about lost your MIND you were so excited to be there. I brought you into the dilapidated dressing room/greenroom and you stood against the ratty sofa and babbled and bounced and laughed out loud at nothing at all. You checked out every nook and cranny of the building, and then sat happily on my lap while I ran lines with one of the cast members. You clearly know you’re a theatre baby, so we’ll hope the resentment will be saved for when I refuse to let you play with Barbies or go to Cabo San Lucas on spring break. THAT I can live with.

New Age Leprechaun?

Your Uncle Stan says you’re going to be a performer when you grow up, and maybe he’s right: you certainly know how to work an audience already. You’ve developed what your father and I can only call a “shit-eating grin” that you pull out whenever something particularly pleases you. You adopt an underbite, and show all your little teeth, and crinkle up your little eyes in a truly mischievous manner. You may be your father’s daughter in many respects, but the shit-eating grin? That’s from your mama, babydoll. You remember that.

Grin

Speaking of teeth … well, I won’t speak of them because I’m sure everyone we know is sick unto death of me bitching about how many teeth you have. Suffice it to say that I am now the proud owner of several permanent tooth-sized dents in my nipular area, and at the rate you’re going we should be able to make some fat cash in the coming months harvesting teeth from your ever-burgeoning gums. “Ellie’s Tooth Booth” we’ll call it. It’ll be a hit.

Deeeee-licious

You’re still not walking unassisted yet, but you can stand like nobody’s business, and one of your favorite games is to stand in the middle of the room and have your daddy flail his arms at you like he’s going to knock you over, just missing every time. You think that’s HILARIOUS. Your Tante Laura can get you to walk holding onto just one of her hands, but you won’t do that for anyone else. You’re working at it, though – we can almost see the cogs spinning in your brain as you figure out how to get ambulatory. Baby steps, kid. Baby steps.

Heh heh ... I can stand ...

Milestones this month: you’re getting SUPER fun to read to. You definitely have favorite books now (Sandra Boynton is always good) and you anticipate the pages and sections you like best, even mimicking the appropriate sounds – a cat’s meow, the baby hippo saying “bee-bo,” saying “oops!” when the turkey can’t figure out where to put his clothes. It sounds so minor, so little, but I just enjoy the hell out of reading to you. Reading was – is – such an important part of my life, something I get so much joy and comfort and knowledge from, and I feel incredibly lucky to get to pass that along to you.

Hi, Mama!

In more mundane news, you’ve outgrown your wee little orange shoes that I got you for Christmas. I loved those shoes, dammit. Fortunately, now that you’re a size 5, you have like three new pair that you couldn’t wear before – whee! Just wait until you’re big enough for handbags!

Chatty Cathy in action

You’re acquiring new sounds all the time, including some this month that your father says make you sound like you’re cussing us out. When you really get going it sounds something like “doi doi doi ding ding dang dooee nah bah bah mamama MAAAAH!” To which the only possible response is “okay, then!” You loooooove other kids (to whom you also speak in your cussing voice; that should be interesting when there are actual words involved) and you’re never happier than when your cousin comes over or we take you out to the mall or the park or somewhere else where you can watch those other small people doing their small people things. It’s finally getting warm enough to be outside again, and I see a lot of parks and playgrounds in our future. Now if we can just work on not actually eating the playground sand, that would be a good next step.

Three Sweet Girls

I can’t believe we’ve had you around for almost a year, kid. Just ca-nnot believe it. I’ll save the reminiscing for next month’s letter; for now I’m just enjoying the ride. Hope you are, too.

Love,
Mamala

You wanna know what’s AWESOME?

Getting your post-show cold a week early, that’s what. Normally, my body waits until the show is over to let go, but this time, it was all like, what? You have one day off this week? WELL DON’T PLAN ANYTHING THAT INVOLVES BEING HEALTHY.

Good times, Good times.

Now here’s something that’s truly awesome: The Bastard Fairies singing We’re All Going to Hell. (Note: not for the devout or easily offended. But the rest of you sickos will LOVE it.) Via Cynical Dad, who notes that you can download their whole album here.

Why I’m not posting: a brief listplanation

1. Mr. Squab’s car gets hit by an asshole.

2. On inspection, bodyshop person says we “wouldn’t even want to see” the estimate for fixing it, and she wouldn’t recommend driving it with the baby in the car because “if anyone rear ends you again, there’s nothing to protect you from the back.” Try to quash lurid visions of Hummer or similar vehicle crushing the back of the car with Hatchling in the rear seat.

3. My car = slowly dying. Will not currently go over 45 mph, and is starting to have trouble with upward inclines. Suspect will not want to see the estimate for fixing that, either.

4. Show! Opens! Tonight!

5. Have been pulling 18 hour days, where schedule goes something like: get up, feed Hatchling, put Hatchling down for nap, take shower, eat breakfast, Hatchling up, feed her lunch, run errands for show/us, put Hatchling down for second nap, eat lunch myself, respond to production-related emails/phone calls, Hatchling up, run more errands for show/us, get home, put stuff away, feed Hatchling dinner, Mr. Squab home, dash out the door to the theatre, rehearse for 5+ hours, come home, eat bowl of cereal in lieu of healthy dinner at normal time, work on program notes/sound cues/props until around 1:30 am, go the hell to bed, start over again at 6:15am.

6. Mr. Squab finds good deal on used Honda, buys it. The good part: fully functional car is whole new experience for us. Did you know that you can actually SEE to drive at night with decent headlights? The bad part: making large purchases and going into debt makes Mr. Squab feel like he wants to barf.

7. Got call yesterday that one of my lead actors has to withdraw from the show due to health reasons (mono + complications). Frantically recast the role and shuffle around schedule to accomodate extra rehearsal time for new actor. Did I mention we open TONIGHT?

8. Playwright is coming to stay with us this weekend. House is complete pit.

I could go on, but you get the general idea. I’ll post the monthly letter when I get a chance. Meanwhile, does anyone have a vat of valium they’d like to share?

Alphabet Meme

As seen at Brazen Hussy’s (a while ago!)

A- Available or Single? No.
B- Best Friend? Mr. Squab, Ms. Kerri, and those folks over there on the “Friends of Squab” blogroll.
C- Cake or Pie? Pie. Fruit Pie.
D- Drink of Choice? Red wine or iced tea.
E- Essential Item? Books.
F- Favorite Color? Green.
G- Gummi Bears or Worms? Bears.
H- Hometown? Athens, GA.
I- Indulgence? Shoes, handbags, and spa treatments.
J- January or February? January. I fucking hate February!
K- Kids and names? Daughter: Eleanor Johanna, aka the Hatchling.
L- Life is incomplete without…? A sense of humor.
M- Marriage Date? June 8, 2002.
N- Number of Siblings? Five. Top THAT!
O- Oranges or Apples? Honeycrisp apples.
P- Phobias/Fears? Falling down the stairs, spiders and centipedes, loved ones dying.
Q- Favorite Quote? I’m not much of a quote-y person, but here’s a good one from Twain: “It is better to keep your mouth closed and let people think you are a fool than to open it and remove all doubt.”
R- Reasons to smile? Mr. Squab’s vicious sense of humor. The Hatchling’s attempts at feeding herself.
S- Season? Autumn.
T- Tag 3 people? Topher, ShabbyDoll, St. Pauly Girl
U- Unknown Fact About Me? I failed 5th grade Language Arts. And 8th grade Home Ec. Fucking sewing project.
V- Vegetable You Hate? Okra. Disgusting.
W-Worst Habit? Stressing myself out more than necessary over things that need doing.
X- Xrays You’ve Had? Uterine area, wrist.
Y- Your Favorite Foods? In no particular order – Curry, potstickers, garlic chicken alfredo, naan, palak paneer, hummus, tuna melts, cheese grits, fried catfish, my mom’s potato salad, cherry pie, creme brulee … dammit, now I’m getting hungry!
Z- Zodiac? Leo with Gemini rising.

So it’s going to be one of THOSE weeks, is it?

Last night at about 2:00 in the morning, Mr. Squab sat straight up in bed from a dead sleep and listened vehemently. (Yes, you can listen vehemently. He did.) I was in the middle of a weird dream that I can’t remember now, so I hadn’t heard anything, but something had woken him up. It didn’t continue, though, so we went back to sleep.

This morning, when Mr. Squab went to leave for work, he discovered what the noise had been: some asshole side-swiped the car last night and took off. It’s not totalled, thank goodness, but the rear bumper is trashed, the rear driver’s side tail-light is smashed, and there are big old dents all along that side of the car. To quote Mr. Squab: goddamn sonovabitch. If it had been MY car, this would have not been a huge deal – it’s on its last legs anyway, and we’d figure, well, OK, time to get a replacement. But Mr. Squab’s car is (was?) supposed to last us a good bit longer. Since we only have liability insurance, any repairs will be out of our pocket, and you know how expensive bodywork gets. So: Yay! Good Times!

On a positive note, it’s tech week this week for my show, and things are coming together so smoothly (knock wood) that we’re all kind of waiting for the other shoe to drop. (For those of you unacquainted with the world of teensy budget professional theatre, tech week usually equals extreme stress and aggravation.) I guess if I had to choose, I’d kind of rather deal with a broken car than a broken show (sorry, Mr. Squab), so I’m feeling pretty good. Er … I mean, DAMMIT, FATE! YOU GOT ME AGAIN! I CAN’T TAKE IT ANYMORE! PLEEEEEEEEEASE DON’T THROW ME IN THAT BRIAR PATCH!

Right. Jinx averted. Coming soon: my review of 300, aka the WORST movie I’ve seen in living memory. Oy.

Maybe if I post a cute picture, no one will notice that I’m not actually blogging.

Lookit!
Hi, Mama!

Equation for the week

(Parents visiting last weekend + rehearsals ramping up) * Baby erupting with 1 year molars, 2 year molars and upper canines ALL AT THE SAME TIME/no more late afternoon naps = no goddamn time for breathing, much less blogging.

Oh, and: Mr. Squab broke a tooth, and must now make a pilgrimage to the dentist for the first time since we have been together, i.e. eight years. THAT will be a fun bill to pay.

So, how’s your week going?

Friday Recipe Blogging

So, I’m from the south. Born and raised in Athens, GA, until I was cruelly uprooted to Minnesota at the tender age of ten when my dad got a job teaching at a small liberal arts school in the middle of nowhere. Now, it’s true that at this point I’ve spent more time living out of the south than in it, but there’s something about those first ten years that’s … what’s the word I’m looking for … oh yeah: formative. Which is to say that you can take the girl out of the south, but blah blah blah I still say y’all and dream of a vacation in Dollywood.

One place where my souther-tude comes out most consistently is in my reverence for white trash cuisine. If it’s cheap, bad for you, and just a little wrong, chances are I will love it. Boiled peanuts? Hell, yeah. Fried peanut butter and banana sandwich? Load me up. Bacon flavored anything? Sock it to me, baby. For my wedding to Mr. Squab, we got a country club in central Minnesota to make us fried catfish, cheese grits, and hoppin’ john. The event coordinator thought we were a little insane, but it was the best wedding food I’ve ever had. So when the time came to choose a theme for our recent Oscar party, white trash just seemed like the way to go. White trash cuisine makes excellent party food. Of course, a lot of the food was bought ready-made: Little Debbie oatmeal creme pies, Bugles and EZ cheese, Double Stuff Oreos, etc. But I actually made two dishes, and I thought I’d share them with y’all in the interests of promoting my heritage so it carries on after my early death from grease-related cardiac arrest. Enjoy:

Cornholio
Got this recipe from my sister, who currently resides in Knoxville, TN. Many people north of the Mason-Dixon line find the idea of combining corn and cream cheese in a cold dip a little off-putting, but trust me: once you try it, you won’t stop eating it until it’s goooooooone.

1 c. mayonnaise
1 pkg. cream cheese, softened
2 cans Mexi-corn (the kind with red and green peppers in it)
1 green onion, chopped
1 small jar pimientos
1 can chopped jalapeno peppers
1 T. seasoned salt
1 T. garlic powder

Mix cream cheese and mayo until well blended. Drain corn, pimientos and jalapenos and add them to the cream cheese/mayo mixture. Stir in onion, season salt and garlic powder. Cover and refrigerate for at least 1 hour. Serve with Fritos Scoops.

Chocolate Cheese Fudge
I adapted this from Paula Deen’s Just Desserts cookbook, which is just full of yummy southern treats. I knew I had to try this one, though, because hello! What’s more trashy than making fudge from Velveeta?!? And again: it sounds gross, but I’ll be damned if it doesn’t taste better than any other fudge I’ve ever made. Fo’ real.

1 lb powdered sugar (that’s one bag or two boxes)
1/2 c. cocoa
1/2 lb Velveeta cheese, cubed
1 c. butter (2 sticks)
1/4 c. semi-sweet chocolate chips
1 t. vanilla extract
1 c. chopped pecans (optional)

Spray the bottom of a 9×11 pan with nonstick spray. In a large bowl, blend powdered sugar and cocoa, and set aside. In a saucepan over medium heat, melt together cheese, butter, and chocolate chips, stirring constantly. (Mixture may not look smooth when completely melted, but it doesn’t matter.) Add vanilla and nuts. Pour the cheese mixture into the sugar and cocoa and mix until completely blended. (It’s a very stiff candy, so I recommend using a stand mixer if you have one.) Using a rubber spatula, press the candy evenly into the pan. Refrigerate until firm, and cut into 1″ squares.

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